What works for me!

This is a blurb I just had to get down – it’s a power tool from me and totally true! Take what you will from it !!!

“ Being totally MYSELF involves taking risks with myself,

Taking risks on new behaviours and actions,

Experimenting with innovative ways of “BEING MYSELF” - this is really LIVING life to the MAX – and being the best I can be – wooohaaar!!!!!

SAM MUTIMER – Let’s REFRESH

We would love to know what makes you tick. What do you tell yourself to keep YOU on track? We want to know!! – Share Share – that’s what life is all about, isn’t it!

Change isn’t by chance, it’s by choice.

Now go make a difference!

Sammy

CONNECT - WORK, CAREER, LIFE!

We delved into this in a broader perspective in last week’s tip - see below.

Do you remember the three areas in which we can search for “THE COMMON GROUND-NESS ”!!!!

EXPERIENCES, ENTHUSIASM and BELIEFS.

Let’s now take a look at the power house behind them all.

· BELIEFS

We usually tend to like people who see the world the same as we do. A bit of challenge is fine, maybe even a good thing, but first and foremost it is good to know that we are starting from the same principles.

Some of the beliefs we hold are pretty weak. I might believe that WEEKEND HUSTLER will win the Melbourne Cup and THE CAT EMPIRE are an outstanding and extremely talented band. If you agree with me then you are clearly a very intelligent person with a bright future ahead of you! He he...

If you disagree and think EFFICIENT will win and that whilst The Cat Empire are ok after a few beers they certainly are not an OUSTANDING BAND, that is ok too, so long as you can give me a good debate and are happy with a difference in view.

Direct disagreement with any of my stronger views carries a serious risk that I won’t like you as much. Think about it, has this ever happened to you? A healthy challenge on who will win The Melbourne Cup may be fine, yet if you disagree with me about whether a person can’t change their mindset to get their goals or whether it’s our duty to protect the environment, then I am much less inclined to feel connected to you. So, when we do disagree with someone we want to like us, it can pay to keep our views to ourselves at times.

TIP – This is probably going a bit far (deliberately) yet next time you are about to say “No but....” try instead “That’s interesting...” and go silent or “Yes and...”. You may well find some of those difficult conversations become much easier and you can connect even more – that’s if you want to.

Let us know your thoughts, sharings and suggestions...share share.. on the "add comments below"!

With refreshing regards

Sam