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The new boss. Your best mates new partner. An alluring stranger at a party. There are times when we desperately want to make a good first impression. Considering it takes around 10 seconds for a person to make a full judgement and opinion of you, wouldn’t you want to know how to strike a match instantly?
The phrase “staircase moment” describes that feeling as we walk away down the stairs, and think exactly what we could of said, only 3 minutes too late! It’s best mate is the “shower moment” when we are washing our hair and some even better replies pop into our head – we may tell ourselves “THAT’S A GREAT ONE, I’ll remember that for next time” !!!!
If there was a magic medicine that blasted the staircase and shower moments for ever and made your day consistently attractive and super popular, would you take it?
Hmmm..unfortunately I’m not aware if this exists, yet for the next best thing read on. Remember – to know but not to do, is not yet to know!
How to connect even more – TIP 1
Virtually the only common factor among people who are widely liked is that they make the other person feel special, as if they are the only person that matters in the world. Has that ever happened to you? If so, I’m guessing that you got on pretty well with them!
In order to build powerful rapport and connect with people we need to give them our full attention. Here are some useful tips to keep you alert and connected.
http://www.letsrefresh.com.au
The new boss. Your best mates new partner. An alluring stranger at a party. There are times when we desperately want to make a good first impression. Considering it takes around 10 seconds for a person to make a full judgement and opinion of you, wouldn’t you want to know how to strike a match instantly?
The phrase “staircase moment” describes that feeling as we walk away down the stairs, and think exactly what we could of said, only 3 minutes too late! It’s best mate is the “shower moment” when we are washing our hair and some even better replies pop into our head – we may tell ourselves “THAT’S A GREAT ONE, I’ll remember that for next time” !!!!
If there was a magic medicine that blasted the staircase and shower moments for ever and made your day consistently attractive and super popular, would you take it?
Hmmm..unfortunately I’m not aware if this exists, yet for the next best thing read on. Remember – to know but not to do, is not yet to know!
How to connect even more – TIP 1
Virtually the only common factor among people who are widely liked is that they make the other person feel special, as if they are the only person that matters in the world. Has that ever happened to you? If so, I’m guessing that you got on pretty well with them!
In order to build powerful rapport and connect with people we need to give them our full attention. Here are some useful tips to keep you alert and connected.
1. Stay Alert - What do you get back as soon as you’ve realised that your mind has drifted off? That’s right, ATTENTION! The most important technique for building rapport with someone is maintaining focus – LISTENING – that means listen to the other person without judging or commenting on what they are saying, and it’s not as easy as it sounds!
We talk at between 120 and 150 words per minute yet can listen up to 1,200 words per minute! It is no surprise that with all that listening capacity we get easily distracted and bored.
2. Give them the benefit –our challenge, if we chose to accept it is to unlock the interesting side of every person we talk with.
3. Listen without prejudice – real listening requires putting aside our prejudices and preconceptions until we have collected all the information that we want.
4. Get involved – when we are part of the action then it’s much easier to stay switched on. You could ask e.g. what happened? how did that feel? what did you see?
Set yourself a challenge – choose a topic they have spoken about and then summarise it in 10 points. Share your insights with them, which will demonstrate how actively you have been listening and is sure to make them feel great too (and great about you!)
5. Spot drifting early – we all know what it feels like when we drift – the more aware you are about your drifting patterns the easier you can switch back to alert!
Stay tuned for how to strike a match next week!
Have an awesome week and remember...
Change isn’t by chance...it’s by choice.
We talk at between 120 and 150 words per minute yet can listen up to 1,200 words per minute! It is no surprise that with all that listening capacity we get easily distracted and bored.
2. Give them the benefit –our challenge, if we chose to accept it is to unlock the interesting side of every person we talk with.
3. Listen without prejudice – real listening requires putting aside our prejudices and preconceptions until we have collected all the information that we want.
4. Get involved – when we are part of the action then it’s much easier to stay switched on. You could ask e.g. what happened? how did that feel? what did you see?
Set yourself a challenge – choose a topic they have spoken about and then summarise it in 10 points. Share your insights with them, which will demonstrate how actively you have been listening and is sure to make them feel great too (and great about you!)
5. Spot drifting early – we all know what it feels like when we drift – the more aware you are about your drifting patterns the easier you can switch back to alert!
Stay tuned for how to strike a match next week!
Have an awesome week and remember...
Change isn’t by chance...it’s by choice.
GO GO
SAM :-)
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